FEATURED
Previous | Next  

Monika's Background - a Father who does not provide for his Family - 17 Dec 14

17 Dec 2014  Vrindavan, India

Category: Charity

Monika and her Mother in the Hospital

Monika and her Mother in the Hospital

After having told you about Monika's accident and the reason why we chose the hospital we did, I would like to tell you a bit more about her background, her family and her home.

Monika’s mother is not illiterate. She has attended school until the 8th school year, which is not very little, considering that we have an illiteracy rate of about 50% in this state. She and her sister got married in a joint wedding – to two brothers, so that they were sister-in-laws after their wedding! Sounds like a good thing but today, they don’t speak with each other anymore.

Nobody of Monika’s father’s family actually speaks with them. The mother tells that they are isolated although they live in the same house. Her husband is one of four brothers. His eldest brother has died and the late brother’s wife is the one who owns the house. Monika’s grandmother lives there as well as the youngest brother with his family. One room and one kitchen is there for Monika’s family.

The reason why nobody wants to have much to do with them? Most probably Monika’s father. Not having been to school even one year, he is fully illiterate. Soon after their wedding, Monika’s mother realized that he did not actually have a proper work. He worked for a while here and for a while there but could never really keep a job. He had a vending stand for some time, which he pulled through the streets, trying to sell fruit, vegetables and even other different items. His brothers supported him for some time but he never brought any profit home or just very minimal. He also worked at his brother’s shop, close to Vrindavan’s main temple – but obviously didn’t do his work properly, so that his own brother said he would not employ him anymore.

You can imagine the financial situation in this home, where the mother has to think about how to feed her three daughters! The worries that she carries around with her! The feelings she must have for her husband!

Her parents supported her when nobody else did anymore. They gave kitchen utensils and clothes. To them she went for months at a time when she had fights with her husband and the children were not yet at school.

When she told all these sorrows to a friend, the other woman answered: you should get a job yourself! Earn money – then you won’t have to wait for him to bring something home!

Once the elder children went to school, she decided to act. She gave her little one to her mother to raise and, upon the recommendation of a friend, got a job as security staff at a big local temple! Now she is the one to bring money home!

This does not solve all problems of course! She doesn’t earn very much – 5000 Rupees, which is approximately 80 US-Dollar - but at least she can buy food and the necessary items. Still, her brother was the one who paid for Monika’s medication and lent her the money for the ambulance. Her parents decided to give the money for a TV connection when Monika was just lying at home, recovering, while her mother was at work.

And her husband? Only creates problems. Of which kind, I will tell you tomorrow.

In the meantime, it would be great if you could share the message and tell your friends about Monika, share my blog entry about her accident and our project page where they can donate! Together, we can help her!

Share this post on: 

Tags:: Charity, Money, Work, Monika

0 Comments

Posted By Swami Balendu

Swami Balendu

Older Entries

Children get Clothes

Happy Diwali also for our Children

Happy Diwali to all of you! The Ashram celebrat...

Breakfast

Apra's German Grandparents in Vrindavan - 28 Oct 1...

Apra’s German Grandparents in Vrindavan - 28...

Distributing Workbooks

New Workbooks for our smallest School Children - 2...

It is Saturday, the weekend has started and for ou...

Fear

Caught in a Web of your own Fears? Here is what to...

Sometimes it is strange for me to see how much fea...

Shirodhara

Shirodhara - Ayurvedic Treatment against Stress, D...

A whole lot is going on, as always, and we are bus...

Peaceful Conversation

A Call for open Communication - because it helps! ...

I have always been a believer in open communicatio...

atheist meeting vrindavan

Thanks to religious Leaders, a cancelled Event mad...

So yesterday was my 45th birthday and definitely a...

Ewai Masti

National Convention on Atheism in religious Town V...

Until now, I have not told you yet about a program...

Balendu and Apra

Treasuring every precious Moment with my Baby - 5 ...

Today I woke up in the morning, as usual next to m...

Money

Please read if the Aim of your Life is all about M...

I yesterday wrote about parents who want to suppor...

Related Blogs

Friends in India

People prefer making religious Donations rather th...

Some days ago I already mentioned that many people...

Medical Camp

Medical Camp to help the Poor - 7 Sep 08

Today we had the medical camp in the Ashram. We op...

Ganesh and Naresh with their Uncle

Half-Orphans whose Mother has no motherly Attachme...

Today I would like to introduce you to two brother...

Radha, Gopal and their Family

Sometimes the Father is a Cook, sometimes a Labour...

The children of our school are lucky these days &n...

Flood Increasing in Vrindavan

Free Health Checkup for Flood Victims on Radhashta...

Yesterday I have already told you about the situat...

School

New Furniture in School by Donations for Poor Chil...

Maybe you saw the picture in yesterday’s dia...

Deepak, Suraj and their Family

Dreams of a better Future in Town - Our School Chi...

Like every Friday, I want to introduce you today, ...

Swami Ji and Kanu

Children of our Charity School - 27 Sep 08

I talked about the school situation in India in th...

Rameshwari, Karishma and their mother

Losing everything except for bare Life in the Hima...

Today I will introduce you to another family who h...

The boys are happy about their new shoes

A School for the Poor, not for the Rich - 12 Apr 1...

Today a family came to the Ashram. It was an India...

Celina distributing sweets

Increased Expenses with Increased Number of Childr...

I cut off my dreadlocks and shaved my hair and thi...

Girls in India

Equal Treatment in Education for poor Boys and Gir...

In the last week I was writing about dowry and the...

Hema and her Family

Preparing 2000 Snacks to earn a minimal Living - O...

It is Friday again and my turn to introduce you to...

Food for Flood Victims

Celebration of 1000 Articles with 1000 Flood Victi...

Today I am writing the 1000th edition of my person...

Varsha and her Family

When Boys get better Education due to Money Proble...

I would like to introduce you to one existing stud...

Children of the fifth Grade

Farewell Party at Ammaji's for our Fifth Graders -...

Yesterday I mentioned that Ammaji’s Ayurvedi...

Jaya and her Family

Marble Floor at Home but no Money for good Educati...

Today I would like to introduce you to Jaya, a gir...

Monika and her Mother in the Hospital

Monika's Background - a Father who does not provid...

After having told you about Monika's accident ...

Payal and Ashika

Another poor Family, another Attempt to help - Our...

Today I want to introduce you to two new students ...

Flood in Vrindavan

Help Flood Victims in Vrindavan - 30 Aug 10

I told you yesterday already that the situation of...

Have something to say? Post your comment

Comments are moderated and will be allowed if they are about the topic and not abusive.

Get Swami Ji's Diary via Email


Enter your email-address to get news by email!

Feedburner
Blogs
2960
Comments
7384
Topics
83