Media Should Not Create Stories that Ruin Lives - 5 Jan 11

05 Jan 2011  Vrindavan, India

Category: Society

Sex Scandal in Vrindavan

Today I want to write about a local story, which is now called the sex scandal of Vrindavan, but which actually started last year in beginning of August. One day, our guard came and gave us a USB stick which a stranger had given to him in front of the gate. He did not know that man and just told us that it was for us. When we saw the data which was on that stick, we all were shocked. What we were looking at were the private pictures of an old classmate of mine, all a few years old. I had been to school with this man and his wife and we are friends even if we had not seen each other for a long time. And there they were, pictures and videos of them being intimate with each other.

What I did was to immediately call this friend and ask him to come to the Ashram. I showed him the data that was anonymously delivered to us. He told me that the month before, in July, his computer had crashed and he had taken it to a computer shop for repairing. He knew already that someone had in that time stolen his data because we were not the only ones who had received it. I suggested he should go to those people of whom he thinks that they have the data and tell them that it is private data. If he had not done anything wrong, he should not worry.

This issue did not come up anymore and I thought it to be resolved until we received his phone call last week. He asked us for help, telling us that his private data was out in public now, with many more people some of whom started blackmailing him. What he was afraid of was that anybody could go to the media with those pictures and videos. Of course we don’t have control over local media and this is how we saw news about him in local newspapers and TV channels today.

The story that the journalists created however shocked us even more. According to the news, he has been involved in the sex movie business for years now. They presented him as a porn star who earns his money by selling his movies abroad.

Why did the media do this to the family when they made them part of a sex scandal? This man has a teenage son and a teenage daughter! The whole town of Vrindavan knows about this now, half of the people have the videos and pictures on their mobiles and this family’s social life is over. Even if you say that taking pictures and videos of himself and his wife is wrong, how can it be right what you did? You ruin not only his and his wife’s lives but also the life of their children!

Media always loves to have sensational news to have some more readers, some more watchers and just some kind of story. If however you create a wrong story and by this ruin somebody’s life, it is not right. I think media persons should act with more responsibility! He has of course made a police report and accused those people of whom he thinks that they took and spread the data. Of course, the media story does not stand a chance in front of court but his social life will be non-existent after this.

I have written before about how many dirty things are going on in religious centers, organization and even in temples, especially here in Vrindavan. Media should spend more time cleaning up that dirt instead of creating false stories of sex scandals about the intimate pictures of a married couple. I hope after some time people will forget and he and his family will get peace back into their lives.

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Shame on the media for spinning such a wild story that is so full of libel and slander! How could they rightfully publish this story knowing that they would ruin this man's life, just because they thought that it would be a good story, it does not at all make it right. As a journalist student we are challenged to fact-check everything and make sure that teverything is nothing but the truth.

Reply By Tricia on August 27, 2012 03:01


I think the saddest thing about this story is the people who took the data in the first place. The media, although at blame, is payed to tell people about happenings. It is terrible that they exaggerated the story but this man trusted the IT people with his computer and data.

Reply By Joanne on April 30, 2012 02:55


This is such an unfortunate and horrible occurrence. It's crazy that the media wastes so much time bringing harm to others by making up stories. Don't they have more important things to report on?? And don't the people of Vrindavan who know this man realize that it's all lies? I guess this just proves that it's not a good idea to have photos or videos that you don't want others seeing.... be extremely careful.

Reply By Emily on October 26, 2011 11:24


It is remarkable, how quickly a word of gossip will bring you down into your own misery.

Reply By Kelly Heuizen on January 20, 2011 06:19


This is really so sad. I hope that this man can stop the cycle of violence that someone else started by not making enemies out of his enemies.

Reply By Tad Wethers on January 19, 2011 02:38


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