FEATURED
Previous | Next  

Selfish and Egoistic Concept of Freedom in Western Culture - 19 Dec 10

19 Dec 2010  Wiesbaden, Germany

Category: Western culture

Children Eating

Yesterday I said that it is not only young people’s fault that old people feel alone in the last years of their life. It is actually the whole culture, the system, everybody’s attitude and idea of life that creates this problem.

I have been writing a little about individualism already. It is a big problem here that people don’t have space for each other in their lives. They don’t even have space for their partner! How come you think they could have space for parents or grand-parents? ‘I need my space’ is the most popular sentence for explaining problems with family, friends and partner.

People’s lives are full of their own problems and issues. They have absolutely no time for anything or anyone because they are super-busy just with themselves. Their own problems and questions are sufficient to fill a big percentage of their day. How could they have extra time for others?

It may seem very selfish and egoistic if I describe it like this and you may think this view is too hard and negative. Unfortunately I have to say however that it is reality. How much time do most people here really spend together with others? You grow up and as fast as possible you should move out. You learn something and start working. The best is if you can do your work on your own and better than all others. Competition with everyone around you. You may have a partner but hesitate to move together because you don’t want to lose your freedom. You hesitate to have children because it might bring too much responsibility. You send them out of the home once they are adult and you are looking forward to have time for yourself again.

And one day you realize that you are sitting alone in an empty house and nobody is there who could make a fire, bring you a blanket or cook you some food.
This is a culture that I can never accept for myself.

While writing this diary, I feel it is sad but these are the feelings that I have and this is how it often is here.

We spent a great weekend with Ramona’s father Jochen, with Renate and Eva. It was nice to have the feeling of Christmas with them, to have talks, listen to Christmas songs and to enjoy the warmth together inside while outside snow was falling.

Share this post on: 

Tags:: Children, Family, Food, Friends, Sadness, Western culture, Work, Freedom, Ego, Feelings, Time, Partners

19 Comments

Posted By Swami Balendu

Swami Balendu

Older Entries

Children get Clothes

Happy Diwali also for our Children

Happy Diwali to all of you! The Ashram celebrat...

Breakfast

Apra's German Grandparents in Vrindavan - 28 Oct 1...

Apra’s German Grandparents in Vrindavan - 28...

Distributing Workbooks

New Workbooks for our smallest School Children - 2...

It is Saturday, the weekend has started and for ou...

Fear

Caught in a Web of your own Fears? Here is what to...

Sometimes it is strange for me to see how much fea...

Shirodhara

Shirodhara - Ayurvedic Treatment against Stress, D...

A whole lot is going on, as always, and we are bus...

Peaceful Conversation

A Call for open Communication - because it helps! ...

I have always been a believer in open communicatio...

atheist meeting vrindavan

Thanks to religious Leaders, a cancelled Event mad...

So yesterday was my 45th birthday and definitely a...

Ewai Masti

National Convention on Atheism in religious Town V...

Until now, I have not told you yet about a program...

Balendu and Apra

Treasuring every precious Moment with my Baby - 5 ...

Today I woke up in the morning, as usual next to m...

Money

Please read if the Aim of your Life is all about M...

I yesterday wrote about parents who want to suppor...

Related Blogs

Swami ji

Do not Trust Anybody who Helps you? - 20 Jun 09

Yesterday I told you what the person in the train ...

Formalities at Events

Less Formalities make Life easier! - 28 Jan 15

I yesterday wrote about thankfulness and mentioned...

Swami ji with friends

Cheeese - Why are you not smiling? - 9 Oct 09

For the new design of the website and also for the...

Brandenburg Gate in Berlin and Statue of Liberty in New York

'Wrong Number, Honey!' - When American and German ...

When we were in Germany we met with a friend and h...

Celebrating Tanya on her Birthday

Lack of a Loving Touch Creates Loneliness in the W...

When I am travelling in the west and giving healin...

Sound Studio Work

Forced to Give Tips in the US - 28 Sep 09

There is another experience from our recent USA tr...

Babbaji holding Apra

Life when you are old - the Failure of Western Cul...

Yesterday I talked about the financial expectation...

How to fight Feelings of Loneliness - 12 Nov 14

We recently had a participant in our Ayurveda Yoga...

Friends

Eating and Talking Habits - 1 June 10

I wrote about different customs at the lunch or di...

Swami ji & Ramona

Always Mistrusting Strangers - 3 Aug 09

Today in the morning we walked to the bakery to bu...

Elderly People

The difficult Situation of elderly People in the W...

I yesterday mentioned that people in the west had ...

Children Eating

Selfish and Egoistic Concept of Freedom in Western...

Yesterday I said that it is not only young people&...

Ayurvedic Cooking Workshop

Cultural Differences USA-Germany-India - 31 May 10

I wrote yesterday already about the cooking worksh...

Being alone

Joint Families are great - but not every old Perso...

I yesterday told you that in my opinion, a joint f...

Family Time in Germany

Getting Old in the West - What Will You Do? - 18 D...

I have been writing about death in the last days a...

Swami Ji

Comparing Ways of Expression in USA and Europe - 1...

Yesterday I talked about how Americans tend to exp...

Fire Ceremony

Children Drinking and Smoking - Educate Children w...

We went to the street fair in the town today. Ther...

Swami ji & Yashendu with friends

Description of a Typical German Character - 5 Jun ...

Yesterday we had dinner with friends and we were t...

Swami ji & Yashendu

Feel what you say with your Heart! Do not just say...

I said that people here like to express their feel...

Food for a day

Helpfulness in the USA - 27 Sep 09

Of course our trip to America is a long topic to t...

Have something to say? Post your comment

Comments are moderated and will be allowed if they are about the topic and not abusive.

Comments

Individualism in western countries is increasing from year to year. The biggest fear of young people is often to be "normal" and to be "mainstream". Specially in the bigger cities they dress crazy, use a lot of make-up or just behave in a strange way...and all of that just to arrest attention. Is this maybe the result of some kind of lack?

Reply By Mirela on August 15, 2012 05:31


I do think Westerners are a bit spoiled in this way. We grow up with so many opportunities and freedom that we come to expect that this is the best way to live. We aren't taught as much discipline and sacrifice as in other cultures. We are selfish in feeling like we deserve to always have what WE want, regardless of how it is for everyone else. Maybe it is a bit too much freedom and we don't know how to handle it with maturity. Just because you CAN move away from your annoying family and stop spending your money on your dying parents...SHOULD you??

Reply By Emily on October 27, 2011 02:44


"I need my space," translates to; I cannot stand to be with myself but I believe that it is you I cannot stand to be with.

Reply By Kelly Donaldson on January 22, 2011 11:00


Why do people forget that they enjoy others so much?

Reply By Crystal Baker on January 22, 2011 07:18


Households in the west don't usually have more than 2 generations inside of them. I think people really miss out on the wisdom of the young and the old this way.

Reply By Pheonix on January 22, 2011 07:16


Load More Comments

Get Swami Ji's Diary via Email


Enter your email-address to get news by email!

Feedburner
Blogs
2960
Comments
7384
Topics
83