To make this a little bit more clear I will give you an example. We use to ignore our feelings. We do not respect them because we are afraid that there is something wrong with them, that we are wrong. That is why we are acting and pretending to be someone else. We pretend to have other feelings. It is an artificial world that we create around us, not the original. And when suddenly something true comes through, some emotions come up and we see who we really are we get afraid. There is no reason to get afraid but we are not used to these feelings so we refuse to accept them. This can create a big confusion and will finally lead to one thing: previous decisions, talk and actions seem to be wrong. So we start changing our actions more to what we really are. But suddenly, doubts come again. Are we good enough like this? Were we better before? And then we come back to the old habits of acting the role of someone we would like to be. By this our surroundings will get the impression that we are changing our mind all the time. How can you trust someone who is constantly changing his mind?