02 Jun 2009 Essen, Germany
Category: Ego
Yesterday I was writing about ego in between friends. Unfortunately here in the west I see too many times that ego becomes bigger than any friendship, relation or love. When ego and friendship clash, many even accept the pain of breaking and separation instead of leaving their ego. Sometimes I really wonder why it is so much like this here.
As you know I am the witness of two cultures. It seems this material-oriented society is built on the base of ego. Somehow people in the eastern culture that I see, seem softer. They are more humble and can be happy and satisfied in small things. Their needs are smaller. When I compare this to here, people here have bigger needs, which makes it very hard for them to be satisfied. Sometimes I think that this can also be a reason why the level of ego is so high that they cannot even satisfy that.
We had a very nice Darshan today here in Essen.
Tags:: Friends, Indian culture, Love, Relationships, Western culture, Ego, Satisfaction
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You make a great point, Swami, that the size of your needs relates to the satisfaction of your ego. In the West, we have so many material fulfillments that we become hungrier and hungrier for something real... not just empty material fulfillment. The more we need, the less satisfied we are with simple things. In the East, fulfillment in life isn't focused on material. People feel fulfilled with simplicity, and therefore, people don't keep searching for it in their friendships and demanding too much.
Reply By Emily on October 12, 2011 03:15
Eastern people do seem to have smaller needs, which is interesting because Western people have so many "things" so many objects.
Reply By Haley on January 05, 2011 05:24
Some people that I know do not have one friend who they know the heart of, nor one member of the family like this. It would be very sad to live this way.
Reply By Mikel from Atlanta on November 11, 2010 05:50
i have broken many friendships from unhappiness, it is sad that this happens so often. Usualy the friendships i've broken are with really wonderful people but our egos come to a point where we can't stand to be together. It is a sad phenomena.
Reply By Hulur on October 21, 2010 02:39
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