20 Mar 2009 Vrindavan, India
Category: Sex
Once a prostitute came for a healing session. She said ‘Swami Ji, I started this work quite early and since ten years I am earning my money with it. I will not give this kind of excuse that I was forced to do this work because it is not true. I can accept and admit that I do enjoy my work. I take it like any other profession involving physical work. I believe in god and I feel myself that I am spiritual. And this is how I had the idea to have a healing session with you. I don’t know what you will be thinking of me and my profession but I wanted to experience this energy work, because I never had a healing before.’
I said to her ‘I appreciate your openness, acceptance and honesty. I am not thinking anything wrong about you but I am thinking about your customers.’ Even though I know that it works, I am wondering how it can work. What kind of enjoyment and satisfaction do people get from sex when they buy it? I have said before, too, that sex is not only physical. It is more about feelings than about the physical aspect. And of course with money you can hire a body but not feelings. I know that it works for some people and I have read that this is the oldest profession on this earth but I really don’t understand how the body can even react without feelings.
In the last days I was writing about love and sex in the diary and I said that making of love is not necessarily about sex and sexual feelings. But I want to say that love can be without sex but sex has to be with love. Once I talked with one of my friends about this and he said: ‘People go to a prostitute and pay for giving love.’ He meant that they are not getting any love. They pay for giving love. Actually I do not see any giving or getting of love in this business. I do not really feel that somebody goes there to give love. Of course he doesn’t go to get love, either. He cannot, it is not possible to buy love from money. But neither is he going there to give love. I can maybe say that he is going there to satisfy his ego in the illusion in which he thinks that he can buy satisfaction from money. But satisfaction is that jewel, just like love, which you cannot buy with money.
Tags:: Body, Love, Money, Sex, Ego, God, Feelings, Honesty, Acceptance, Business, Enjoyment, Illusion, Prostitution, Satisfaction, Spiritual
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Posted By Swami Balendu
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Along with your ideas here, I think that the amount of prostitution is determined, not by the number of women selling their bodies, but by the amount of men who need prostitutes. The issue should be addressed from the point of view of the customer. If men had healthy sex lives including love and spiritual connection-- why would they ever want a prostitute? The issue is not that women are willing to sell sex by capitalizing on the male sex drive, but that men are unfulfilled in life with sex and love.
Reply By Emily on October 25, 2011 03:52
Swami Ji, I think you have the right view. And also, I love this photo.
Reply By Milfred on October 28, 2010 06:55
Swami Ji, This is beautifully wise. I'm at a loss for words. This entry's gracefulness fills me with love.
Reply By Lillian on October 28, 2010 06:54
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