20 Apr 2010 Bocholt, Germany
Category: Relationships
When I write like how I did in the last days, about relationships, freedom and ego, I receive many responses which is very nice. I am happy if I can help you by expressing my thoughts. One person wrote to me and said she read my diary entry and then paid more attention on how she said ‘my’, ‘your’ or ‘our’ in their relationship. Then she realized that somehow she always referred to ‘my’ children. She wrote a funny email and I had to laugh. Of course you cannot say ‘my’ or ‘your’, it will always be ‘our’. Even if you wanted, you cannot do it alone, it is not possible.
Ramona and I talked about the following sentence: Mine/our relationship is perfect.
When I said that I will write this in my diary today, Ramona frowned. I asked her ‘Why, don’t you want to write that? Don’t you think it is perfect?’ She answered ‘yes, but people might say you are arrogant…’ I told her that I didn’t think so because this is not only what I think for our relation, it is what I wish for every couple to feel! Every man and woman who are living together in whichever way they decided to be together, should have this thought and say aloud ‘Our relationship is perfect’. I wish for everyone to have this feeling of being only in love and happiness
I don’t want to say with this that your relationship should be exactly like mine. That would not be possible because you are another person. But I wish you that you say about your relationship: it is perfect, I am happy and my partner is happy. We are honestly in love!
Tags:: Happiness, Love, Relationships, Freedom, Ego, Feelings, Honesty, Perfect
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The definition of perfect doesn't have to mean no flaws whatsoever. But it is the flaws, challenges, joys, and love all wrapped up into one that make perfection. I love that picture of you two!!
Reply By Emily on October 06, 2011 04:06
Yes, Our children are beautiful. Our children fall and get hurt. Our children love us.
Reply By Frida and Jose on January 24, 2011 02:32
It is amazing how much a choice to change your thoughts can affect your relationship in a positive way. Our minds can be very helpful to us.
Reply By Rachel Wilson on November 06, 2010 11:35
Thanks Swami Ji. I hope for perfection in relationships too. Perfection through letting go and just loving each other.
Reply By Shannon on October 29, 2010 01:54
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The scriptures of any religion, culture or country can be written by very intelligent people of old times and we can see them as great literature but they should not be taught to children as ideals of how to behave though. They are fiction and many of them are full of blood and violence, creating an illusion for children that this behavior could be religious and good.
SourceReligion has always worked like a dictatorship, exploiting people, using fear to make them accept the rules without asking. The dictator makes the rules and you have no way to change them.
SourceEating is fun, no doubt, but it is not fun anymore when it becomes a habit.
SourceReligion teaches that you should not be completely happy. People are harder to control when they are happy and when they are not afraid. Another reason not to follow any religion – because you want to be happy, not afraid.
SourceKarma is in many ways just a very easy way for irresponsible people to accept bad events and not try to change anything in their behavior or their thinking.
SourceThe fact that non-Hindus are not allowed in Hindu temples is racism in religion.
SourceReligion is imagination and interpretation but also wants to control. That is why people start turning away from religions. They are told which way to go but they want freedom! Let people believe what they wish to believe. Always choose freedom and love.
SourceYou are the creator of your world. If you want to make yourself small, you can, but you can also realize your strength and see that we are all human, all the same. There is one love and one god for all of us.
SourceThere would be no development if nobody ever judged. You would always accept everything as it is. We need to judge.
SourceIf you want to believe in the original form of Hinduism, you cannot convert to it. You are either Hindu-born or you are non-Hindu. If you follow any Guru or sect, you are a member of a Hindu-based sect or cult, not a Hindu!
SourceI don’t like rules but I like discipline. It makes your will power strong.
SourceDo not pretend to be older or younger than you are. Playing a role looks artificial. You appear more serious and real if you just are who you are.
SourceNobody knows what will happen in the future. If we knew what would happen tomorrow, the whole mystery, the adventure, the surprise and the beauty of life would be gone!
SourceThe school is the place where you learn how to learn.
SourceSometimes the mind creates an illusion in which true love cannot be seen. However love never dies and if you make an effort and don’t give importance to your ego, you can see clearly and find the love which was always there.
SourceIf you can enjoy giving joy to somebody else, it is detachment!
SourceOnly if you make your heart soft and accessible, you will be able to feel another person’s sorrows and pain. Only then you can give love from your heart. You can help the needy!
SourceForgive another one and give him a possibility to learn and to improve.
SourceEverybody’s situation is very individual. If I tell you that it is always good to be honest, it is your responsibility how to use this suggestion. If you decide to be honest, unnecessarily tell your boss that you don’t like him and get fired, I would not think that I was responsible for that!
SourceA woman just gave birth to a new child on this earth, the biggest miracle of nature itself – and Indian superstition calls her impure! Isn't that like a bad joke?
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