26 Jan 2008 Schwabmunchen, Germany
Category: Emotions
Yesterday I told a story and today I would like to show you how important the essence of this story is. We are used to a lot of things that are not really pure, not really true, just like the milk in the story. And if something pure comes, if someone tells us something true we cannot really digest that well just like the people in the story.
To make this a little bit more clear I will give you an example. We use to ignore our feelings. We do not respect them because we are afraid that there is something wrong with them, that we are wrong. That is why we are acting and pretending to be someone else. We pretend to have other feelings. It is an artificial world that we create around us, not the original. And when suddenly something true comes through, some emotions come up and we see who we really are, we get afraid. There is no reason to get afraid but we are not used to these feelings so we refuse to accept them. This can create a big confusion and will finally lead to one thing: previous decisions, talk and actions seem to be wrong. So we start changing our actions more to what we really are. But suddenly, doubts come again. Are we good enough like this? Were we better before? And then we come back to the old habits of acting the role of someone we would like to be. By this our surroundings will get the impression that we are changing our mind all the time. How can you trust someone who is constantly changing his mind?
What we really have to learn is to accept ourselves. This will bring the trust back into our lives.
Tags:: Emotions, Fear, Mind, Respect, Trust, Truth, Feelings, Decision, Acceptance, Change, Doubts
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This blog is very true and very sad. When I was younger I was ashamed of who I was, and so I built barriers up around me, so that people couldn't see who I was to protect myself. After a while I started realising that I hated every relationship that I got into because I didn't feel close to anyone, yet I was the one stopping that from happening. I started to worry that I would never have a good relationship and so I made a point of changing. After talking about personal issues and fears with someone, and learning to see things in less of a complex and warped way, I learned to accept myself more. Years later, I'm now in a great relationship, and one of things my boyfriend tells me and other people, is that he values most how genuine I am, and how true to myself I always stay. I only hope people make the same point of change in their life that I did, should they be feeling the way I used to. The benefits are literally life changing!
Reply By Nicola on May 30, 2013 05:25
This is very much a reality in human life. Most people don't even think about how not genuine they can be... I like this insight, Swami! When people who have been faking it are finally confronted with someone who is genuine, they tend to reject them! They are threatened by this genuine sincerity and truth because they know deep down that they are not living truthfully. May everyone on his/her own path learn to be true to him/herself. Let others be true as they will let you. Love yourself, love others.
Reply By Emily on October 13, 2011 12:34
"We do not respect them because we are afraid that there is something wrong with them" that is so true and unfortunate.
Reply By Jerry on October 21, 2010 04:11
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