07 Jun 2008 Schwabmunchen, Germany
Category: Identity
In yesterday’s Darshan I told people how easy it actually is to reduce problems: Just be yourself. It is not a big philosophy and the concept is so easy. However society and culture made it very complicated in the course of many years. Maybe you yourself would be open and ready to be honest with your feelings and to let them flow but there are neighbours, family and friends and in front of them you do not dare to be yourself. So you say something else than you think and feel. And you do something completely else. You don’t do what you think and you don’t think what you say. You don’t say what you do and you don’t do what you say. So these three things are separate from each other although they should be same: our inside, our thoughts and feelings, our talk and our actions.
However we make it so complicated because we don’t live in our originality. And then it is no wonder that we are confused, insecure and lack self-confidence. We cannot trust on what others say or do and we cannot even rely on ourselves. The cure seems so easy and can be so difficult: Accept yourself! And if you train this I can promise you that each day it will be easier for you to live in your originality.
Tags:: Self-confidence, Identity, Honesty, Acceptance, Insecurity
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I totally get the point here and agree with it. It's important to really dig deep and discover who we are in order to express it naturally with others. But I think it takes practice and training to control the thoughts. As Mentira (above) mentioned, the thoughts can be so fleeting and random... and some are just downright false, critical, or not worth expressing! So if we learn how to harness the mind, then we can express what is real and deep, and not just the first thing the mind creates.
Reply By Emily on October 18, 2011 12:25
I finally found that saying what's on my mind is more functional for everyone involved!
Reply By Roger on November 10, 2010 06:29
I don't know... it seems dangerous. But also, feelings are so misleading and thoughts change so quickly. I just never say anything because everything moves around so much.
Reply By Mentira on November 05, 2010 12:22
I'm impressed with how hard it is for many people, including me, to be themselves. there are so many layers to cut through to get down to the real you. It is important and this task is worth your attention.
Reply By holly on October 22, 2010 02:44
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