08 May 2010 Copenhagen , Denmark
Category: Relationships
I am really wondering how many people come to me because they are cheating or because they were betrayed. It is too often! Once there was a woman here who had been married for a long time but six years ago she started an affair. Now she is feeling guilty about that affair but doesn’t know how to stop it. The problem is: this man is her boss.
He is a nice man, they work together and he is important in her life but she now wants to stop the sexual relation with him. He is also married and both, she and her boss, told their partners once about their sexual relation but pretended that it was a one-time mistake.
She is now in a difficult situation: she wants to finish the sexual relation with her boss but keep on working there with him. She cannot talk with her husband about it who is normally the person whom she trusts most because it will hurt him very much. He anyway doesn’t want to talk about that ‘one time’ and she has a very bad conscience for betraying him.
I said to her: Congratulations for realizing that you are not doing right. You need to take the decision to be honest. You are human and mistakes can happen but it is important, when you realize the mistake, to go right from then on. You need to be strong and have strong willpower. When you say no, it is no, you should not fall back into the same thing again. We say in India, whenever you wake up, it is morning. No matter if it is 6 or 10 or 12 o’clock, whenever you wake up, it is morning. And when you woke up, it is time to change.
We will now go to the chakra dance party together with Otto as well as Annick, Regina, Jens, Celina and Linda, who all came to Copenhagen especially for this. Tomorrow I will let you know how it was!
Tags:: Relationships, Sex, Feelings, Decision, Honesty, Cheating, Guilt, Mistake, Willpower
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Posted By Swami Balendu
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That is a winderful statement! When you wake it is morning and each day is new and different and the fresh chance to do something new and learn from your mistakes and become a better person than you were the day before. In Anne of Green Gables she says each day is new with no mistakes in it...yet. Haha while its a little comical it's true that each day is a new invitation to begin anew.
Reply By Tricia on August 25, 2012 03:28
I have been very hurt by cheating. I stay at home and do pretty much everything for my husband and three kids. The least I thought I could ask for was fidelity. When I found out my husband was cheating, I felt very misused. It is a feeling that hasn't yet gone away, and I don't know if it ever will. I sometimes wonder if it would have been better if he'd never told me. Because then it would have been true, but it wouldn't have hurt. Trying to work past this.
Reply By Molly on October 19, 2010 12:50
Honesty is the best, in my opinion. Though it is often the most painful. Honest incites change. Honesty brings you into realms of consciousness you couldn't have imagined. I can promise there is pain in honesty, but there is also purification and that is always better than the muddy waters of deceit. I wish peace for you.
Reply By Jenny Jones on October 19, 2010 01:23
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