24 Jan 2008 Schwabmunchen, Germany
Category: Trust
We had a good conversation on a quite serious topic today: trust. It is not easy to trust here. In this way I had many bad experiences. You cannot be sure that someone who is your friend today is still your friend tomorrow. People are so quick in changing their mind! And for no obvious reason, without anything special happening.
Why are there so quick changes? It is because someone grown up in this western society has learned to work with the mind and not to trust the own feelings. The mind is like a chameleon, changing the colours fast. It is not stable, depending on expectations, be it own expectations or those from others. This is why people are disturbed quickly and have many doubts if a decision was right. Of course, lack of self-confidence plays a major role, too. There are so many factors to this; I will go deeper into this subject in the next days. For the beginning I want to say you: Please trust your feelings and listen to your heart more often. It will help you to take decisions and to be stable in your decisions.
Tags:: Expectations, Friends, Mind, Trust, Self-confidence, Feelings, Decision, Change, Heart
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This is a good point. The mind changes too often to be able to trust what it says. We have to learn to honor and trust what is in our heart... it's much more stable. The mind can be quite confusing, but we can learn how to control it. But sometimes you have to dig deeper in order to find out what your heart says.
Reply By Emily on October 27, 2011 02:34
It's true, you cannot trust that anything in the world will be the same, especially not people and relationships because we are all running around like mad trying to pull ourselves together and then we die! Maybe I wont have any friends tomorrow. Maybe I will have 50 new ones. Maybe I'll get married next week. You just don't know, so you can't trust.
Reply By Clover on December 26, 2010 02:53
Feeling are seen as a weakness built into every person that they have to overcome. people have to "get their act together." it only makes us more dysfunctional!
Reply By Harry on November 04, 2010 12:17
I didn't realize this was a more western thing (doubting the self) but I think you may be right. Much to consider here.
Reply By Jessica on October 27, 2010 04:00
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