17 Jul 2010 Tornesch, Germany
Category: Indian culture
When we thought and talked about yesterday’s diary topic, Ramona, Yashendu and I had to laugh because we automatically compared those situations in the west with similar situations in India. Always, when we have western visitors at the Ashram who are for the first time in India, they experience this curiosity and interest very much. I believe for them this is part of the cultural shock that they describe.
In India it is not really part of good manners to hide your interest or to pretend not to be curious while you are actually nearly dying to know just where the other person is from. So you are a westerner or a group of westerners – easily recognized of course by your skin colour – and you talk a walk around town. You notice that heads turn to look at you. People out of cars smile and wave. Kids start running after you, laugh and try to speak with you: “Hello, hello! What is your name?” Shopkeepers who spot you shout to get your attention for their merchandise and Riksha drivers who would prefer driving for seemingly wealthy foreigners keep on asking if they should take you for a ride. Suddenly there is a crowd, a kind of parade, and you join to watch. But what is that? Slowly a group of people forms around you who have the back towards the colourful festive wagons and the music because they want to look at you. They stand there and look, maybe smile, nothing else.
Well, I agree that it can sometimes be a little bit exhausting being an obvious foreigner in India because nobody will hide his interest. I feel however that it is more honest. After all this friendly interest in other people is one of the reasons why western tourists like to come to India. They feel welcomed there even though sometimes even a little bit too much but in general they enjoy it. And who would not love to answer a lovely question ‘Where are you from’ when the asker has a smile on the face and curiosity in the eyes?
Tags:: Ashram, Indian culture, Love, Money, Honesty, India, Manners, Tourism
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Before coming to India, I had heard lots of different things about what it would be like. One man told me that he had to constantly look out for his blonde girlfriend because men would always try to touch her, even taxi drivers. A lot of people made it seem kind of dangerous or something. But when I arrived here and walked around town, it was different. I definitely got a lot of attention from people, and at first I was a little uncomfortable (unsure of how to interpret it). But then I realized, these people are just curious...they don't mean any harm! They are actually rather gentle people and it's not dangerous just because the attention is on you. I appreciated learning this for myself so I can go home and break this stereotype that is spread there!
Reply By Emily on October 18, 2011 05:37
I have experienced this in India. During Diwali, an entire group of pilgrims stopped and stared for about twenty minutes. I felt like a monkey in a cage.
Reply By Natalia on November 06, 2010 03:08
I love traveling. It opens up my eyes like I was a child again. I don't know the rules. I cannot spot right or wrong, good or bad, powerful or poor. And everything is so beautiful this way. I simply love it!
Reply By Ed Yancy on November 02, 2010 10:03
What seems like rude or hurtful behavior to you when you go to Europe or the States?
Reply By John Bush on November 02, 2010 09:55
I agree Swami Ji. Thaks for your outlook! There is something a little sour in me from the treatment of foreigners in India. It does a lot of harm to look upon someone as a meal ticket. Darnit people let's not do this too each other and too ourselves!
Reply By Cheryl Proctor on November 02, 2010 09:54
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