14 Jul 2008 Vilnius, Lithuania
Category: Family
Yesterday I talked about the insecurity that creates problems in the first chakra. And in the comparison of Europe and India I said that the reasons for this insecurity are different. In the western world it is emotional insecurity. Things are changing fast and as I said yesterday relationships are not really stable.
It is not only relationships between partners. family relations are not very stable here, either. I know people who do not have any contact with their parents or siblings. There are others who are in contact but whose relation is not good at all. They are fighting about money and about heritage. There is jealousy and anger. Among brothers you can often find competition and when the life of one seems to be better, the other one is envious.
When there are these problems for example between siblings or parents and children, it can be very difficult to deal with. On one hand you feel that you should keep in touch and be on good terms with each other because they just are your siblings. But on the other hand whenever you meet or talk on phone you feel tired and exhausted afterwards and have the feeling that your energy is very low. It is more painful to have these problems within your family because there is a relation, you have the same blood and you are brothers, sisters, parents or children.
The relation and in a way also the love will always be there. Whether you are in contact or not you know that there is a relative. When you have the feeling that the relation cannot heal, when you have tried everything what could make it better, also looked at your own mistakes or difficult character traits and when you feel that the other person doesn’t understand your love, it will be better to keep some distance. Otherwise you will suffer each time when you are on phone with that person. You do not have to get in touch that often because it just gives you more pain.
Today the new week started and I gave healing sessions. Tomorrow I will be even more busy with healing sessions and in the evening Yashendu will give Prem meditation.
Tags:: Anger, Emotions, Family, Relationships, Jealousy
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This is a nice resolution if you cannot seem to be on good terms with your family members. I have heard many people say that they have no interest in becoming close with one or more of their family members. Sometimes this may be the final feeling, other times it is temporary. But if you cannot resolve issues with a family member, I think it's important that you look deep within yourself and forgive yourself and your family for all the pain. As long as you are not holding negative feelings for them, then you can heal your family wounds from the past.
Reply By Emily on October 14, 2011 11:53
This entry made me feel very clear about how I can improve some of the relationships in my life. This is the first time I've read this diary. I'm looking forward to reading more.
Reply By Melinda from Canada on October 25, 2010 06:46
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