08 Mar 2010 Vrindavan, India
Category: Sex
The religious idea of celibacy or, as it is called here, brahmacharya does not stop only with sexual intercourse with another person but also says that masturbating is a sin and that you are not allowed to have wet dreams. People believe that you have to protect your semen.
Unfortunately in India there are many false stories relating to that which are circulating and which are still being spread. When boys grow up they are told that if you lose your semen, you lose the light in you. You lose some of your life force and, if I literally translate the expression, you will not shine anymore. They believe semen is most precious and you lose it in ejaculation.
Young men and boys are told that it is an illness if they ejaculate while sleeping and dreaming and in small local newspapers you can find advertisement for medicines that can cure this illness. These advertisements and those who sell this kind of medicine spread even worse stories saying that masturbation and the loss of semen in your teenage time leads to a stop of growth of the penis. ‘Size is not everything but it does matter’ is one of the slogans that you can read and hear.
Of course it is natural that body and sexual feelings develop and every boy will feel it. And I believe every boy will commit these ‘sins’ because you cannot do anything against wet dreams. This society and religion have made an illness out of it and what happens is that every teenage boy feels like having a disease and is afraid that there may be something wrong with him. And so he and many others go to those fake doctors and buy medicine and the doctors’ business runs because of this wrong information which is supported by religion.
If you see it from a medical point of view it is just another fluid of the body and it comes out of the body. You don’t lose anything. Preaching celibacy to a child or teenager will create conflicts inside them. They feel it is natural and they are told it is a sin. How can this be right?
Tags:: Religion, Sex, Society , Celibacy, Disease, India, Medical, Sin
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Posted By Swami Balendu
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I can only imagine the psychological repercussions that result from boys being told these things. All of them at one time or another think they have a disease or are losing their inner light..because wet dreams, sexual feelings, and masturbation are completely normal and common! It makes me sad to think of their fear and pain over this. I hope that these lies are dying out and that teenagers learn the truth. And I hope no one can make money off of these lies and manipulations of innocent minds.
Reply By Emily on October 26, 2011 03:06
I started having sex with my best friend when I was thirteen, and it's never been confusing for me. I think I am lucky in this way because my parents also never treated sex like it was secret or dirty.
Reply By Jolli on November 08, 2010 04:58
There is no shortage of lies about sex that large groups of people choose to believe. The more I know, the more astounded I am. I am curious about finding out when sex started becoming "bad." of course there is also the complication that it is possible that before sex was conceptualized as a right-or-wrong dance of guilty, shameful pleasure, it may have resembled something closer to rape than we are comfortable with. I just don't know. But I want to know.
Reply By Tanya on November 02, 2010 03:58
Love is the river of our heart. Compassion is the bay of our heart that river flows into. Joy is the ocean of our heart that widens out of that bay. Equanimity is the universe of our heart that contains it all.
Reply By Thomas Cox on July 20, 2010 08:58
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