24 Aug 2010 Vrindavan, India
Category: Personal statement
In my life many people have come and many have left. Of course, each time when someone leaves, you think about why and you want to explore the reason behind it. Sometimes you do not really find a reason which makes this separation even stranger. Why did the other person leave?
I have experienced this often with people who could just not go along with me. When a person has a principle or something they are living for, others may not really have a solid reason for leaving but they do. They just could not go along with you on the way that you are following. You will hear many excuses but sometimes you can feel behind it that there is just one thing: you cannot compromise with your way and the others do not want to join you on your way. You know what? It is good that they leave.
I use to say if you have a wish, if you have a target that you want to achieve and you do not have any alternatives, you will reach there. Your wish will get true if you do not change your way. I do not have a certain aim. It is just not my nature to make targets. My principle for living in the presence is to be honest, direct and clear. It is not always easy to go this path but as I will not move one step away from it, I will go it. And those who cannot walk along on this way will naturally go away.
I know I am not the only one with whom this has happened. Someone leaves you and you wonder why but you have the feeling that you have done nothing wrong. You were thinking for their benefit but they did not want to accept your love or well-wishing. You wanted to do something good but they felt differently and left. Don’t worry about it. It is just normal, let them go.
Yesterday we sent our newsletter with Rajbai’s story which I wrote in yesterday’s diary, too. You might also have received it already. If not and you would like to get regular newsletters about our activities, my thoughts, what is happening in my life and at the Ashram, you can simply sign up to our newsletter.
In each newsletter there is a link at the bottom where readers can unsubscribe if they do not want to get the email anymore. As always we saw yesterday, too, that several people clicked on that link. Ramona and I were reading their names and were watching them leave. We talked for a while about it and quickly came to the result that it was very good that they were leaving. It is a necessary filtering process and we should not be disappointed about seeing them leave.
It is not only okay, it is really good. They pressed the unsubscribe button in the newsletter and thus left just as others left our lives before. I tell you, it is necessary to have this button. If you send a mail to anybody who doesn’t want to receive it and there is no option to unsubscribe, it is considered as spamming. In the same way, if you send love to those who do not want to get it, you need to give the possibility for the other one not to take it; otherwise you will be the one who gets hurt again and again. If you do not let them leave, they might create problems for you later.
Accept that your way is not the same and it is good that the other one decided to leave.
When we send a newsletter like yesterday, with a story about our charity and our children, and someone decides to leave after reading it, I believe it is right for them to go. If they do not have any interest in children and in our charity work, if they do not want to hear anything about that, why are they with us? Our love to these children is the essence of all that we are doing.
This is why I really love this link for unsubscribing. And this is how I love the internet, too. Whenever you want, you can be in the middle of a hurricane and whenever you want, you can leave.
The world will go on and keep on turning. And you and I, we will go our way.
Tags:: Ashram, Children, Charity, Love, Feelings, Disappointment , Honesty, Compromise, Experience, Life
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I agree with you here, although it may be hard to let people go who don't accept your love, it is better for you in the long run, after all dwelling on them only hurts you, while they're already moving on.
Reply By Tricia on September 03, 2012 11:34
It is natural for people to flow in and out of your life. It is the way of energy, cycles, and the cosmos. And as long as you are true to yourself, then you know you haven't done anything "wrong." If someone leaves your life, it is best to let it go and wish them well. You will never really know why, but don't judge them for it. It doesn't make you any better than them... they just have a different path. So embrace people while they are in your life, and wish them grace, love, and peace as they leave. Again, I have to say it: Live and let live!!
Reply By Emily on October 11, 2011 12:12
Very much true..swamiji. I too have been through a very similar situation. There is no point in thinking over these things. Just move ahead in your life.
Reply By Aswani on July 27, 2011 09:54
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