17 Jan 2010 Vrindavan, India
Category: Relationships
Yesterday I said already that physical closeness is very important but not the only factor for a successful relationship. And even without physical closeness some people manage to have a beautiful relationship. In former times people were living in villages and when a couple got married, the husband sometimes went to a bigger city for work but couldn’t take his wife along. Despite this physical distance they also had a great connection and love.
Nowadays this can also work, if two people are connected with the heart, with their love and devoted to each other. Then even the distance doesn’t make a difference in their love and trust. Even though they are physically not close their devotion keeps them connected to each other. But what happens many times is that even if they are living together, devotion to each other is missing. And this is how a relationship fails.
They are devoted to other things, not to their love or to the other person. Then they are far away from each other’s heart even though they are living in the same room and sleeping in the same bed. If people have been together for 15 years and after this long time they break up and don’t really feel that they lost something, they were obviously devoted to something else, not their partner. A relationship is something very individual and personal but one thing I can tell you which you definitely need: lots of love.
Tags:: Devotion, Love, Relationships, Trust, Closeness, Heart, Partners
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My understanding of love and devotion: When you love someone purely or unconditionally and they love you as well in this manner, devotion follows naturally. This person is your light, your window to god. You do not fight, you cherish the beautiful words that come from their lips, their actions, their everything. If for some reason, this profound love dims, it can always be found again (if you are "devoted" in a different sense) because what you saw in them is always in them and has only been covered and hidden away by your own perceptions. If this love has faded through some odd circumstance it is as worthwhile to learn to let it go as it is to experience it fully again. And while those two actions may somehow seem separate...they are no different from one another.
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